For those who know me, you will know one of my favourite (and at times most frustrating) questions is “How do you mean?” It’s a favourite question because it softer than “What do you mean?” and because it is a great way to find out exactly what the person is saying or thinking or trying … More Its the question that could change your life…
I remember sitting with a couple of young entrepreneurs a few years ago as they asked my opinion on their business idea. The weird thing about the conversation is they tried to tell me without actually disclosing what their idea was. They were concerned that I might steal their idea. After playing that dance I … More Be more trusted, by first trusting.
I’m reminded how often I discount other people’s pain, predominately because I’ve not experienced it. I act like the pain for them can’t be as bad as they say, when in truth it is worse, crippling and more emotional than I would ever expect. … More Pain you are such a pain
The risk of only having people in our lives like us, is that we miss out on people who stretch us. … More Finding people not like us
You are courageous. Seldom have I seen or met a person with the courage and determination that you have. The way that you replaced your old habit and made the positive change in your life is amazing. I wish I knew how you got it, but the resolve you have is inspirational and I love … More One step that changed your life.
I was fading. The motivation to finish strongly had all but gone. My pace had already faded from run to jog, and I was on the verge of walking home. At just the right moment I saw a middle-age Māori guy waiting for his bus. As I jogged toward him, we lift our heads to … More What being encouraged by a complete stranger taught me…
Are you an introvert or extrovert? It’s a question many of us been asked. If you are an introvert, we’re told, you have a tendency toward your own thoughts and space, and if you are an extrovert you supposedly like to obtain gratification from outside yourself through others. So which are you, Introvert or Extrovert? … More How to determine if you are an Introvert or Extrovert
No-one can replace YOU in your life. No-one else can be their father or mother. No-one else can love your spouse or partner the way you can. No-one else has had the struggles and successes you’ve had. That makes you the perfect person to help. No-one else can come to the rescue quite like you. Your whole … More Hero’s wanted … YOU can apply here.
I was chatting with a guy recently who was asking to be involved in some work I do. As we discussed what we were doing he didn’t seem to agree with my approach as he used the word ‘BUT’ in every other sentence. I agree, but… Yes, but… That’s good, but… ‘But’ gets used just … More Nip ‘But’ in the butt and replace it with…
I have small simple systems for everything including tracking who I have loaned books to. A couple of days ago I looked at who was on the ‘naughty list’ of people who haven’t returned my books. Some of these people have great books and they have had them for years. As I looked at the … More When you lend, should you expect nothing in return?
This one simple question could radically change your upcoming week. If you could relive this week, what would you do differently? At work. Or at home. Mentally. Physically. Spiritually. Financially. What would you do differently? Now note down one, or two, or three things and plan to do them in the week ahead. ∴ I … More If you could relive this week, what would you do differently?
Change is constantly upon us, and the winds of change are always blowing in our lives. So often we lean in against the change. Fight it. And burn a heap of energy trying to get back to where we came from. Usually, in the end, the change forces us there anyway, and we arrive there … More When the winds of change blow – how do you respond?
The enemy stood on the other side of the reception desk, or at least that’s is how the man next to us behaved as he ranted about some problem or another. We too had a problem, the room we had just checked into had not been cleaned properly. We could tell it hadn’t been cleaned … More Why choosing to be gracious is so important
At Agoge one of our essential values is “be caring”. As the guy at the top I see it as a core responsibility to cast a shadow of caring across the entire organisation. One of the ways I do this is I aim to touch base with our core team in the company at least … More Why I make Caring a task