Maybe it was the relentless dull drone of the engines, or the claustrophobic feel of the cabin. Maybe it was the absence of company or even just that my book was not riveting. Whatever it was my one hour flight to escape Palmerston North seemed to take forever. It was so painful. So boring. After … More Why choosing our state of mind is so important.
I failed at school. The best mark I received was an internally assessed A1 in School Cert science. It belonged to another student called Andrew Nichol and was whisked away as quickly as it arrived. I left school at 17 barely able to read, average at the more complex forms of maths, but strangely very … More Why you should believe in failures like me.
I was honoured to hear a friend give a talk about being the best in everything she does. She spoke of what it means to be the best in her music, as a mum, for her boys and at agoge. Her words reminded me how striving to be the best is difficult and I was … More Being the best.
I’m weird! I know I’m weird because the other day I was cooking a BBQ, fooling around and using strange voices. Out of the corner of my eye I saw a neighbourhood kid in the yard steering at me with a look of part bewilderment and part horror. I asked if I was being a … More We are all weird
Those of you who have travelled through parts of Asian know how mad, crazy, radical their driving can be. If you haven’t, watch this short video of a normal intersection at 6:30 at night. At first we described it as ‘Organised Chaos’ and soon realised that it was best described as “Disorganised Order”. Everyone headed were they needed … More 2 lessons about leadership I gleaned while being driven through Phnom Penh.
As I stood motionless at the Killing Fields, what seemed like millions of tear drops landed on my umbrella. The bleak wet day only added to my somber mood as the horror of humanity played out in my mind. Men, women, boys, girls & babies slaughtered by their fellow countrymen on a scale I will … More We are all horrendous and beautiful.
Mid sentence Jim exhaled an audible groan and instantly we burst into uncontrolled laughter. The groan just reflected the thoughts echoing in our heads as we bounced, banged and rocked our way along the red clay road in a remote rural area of Cambodia. Our hosts were taking us, no, bouncing us to a village … More So the water that comes from the Well is not 100% pure?
On a wet humid evening we sat outside on the bustling street corner, in the heart of the action, waiting to enjoy our meal. The restaurant we chose, our clothes and the colour of our skin screamed to the locals that we were wealthy foreigners to Phnom Penh, and almost immediately we were confronted with … More 2 tips for being more generous and compassionate.
One of the funny things about returning from annual leave is that I often have this utopic desire to live a more purposeful life. I guess the relaxation, uninterrupted time with family and the space to think, lead me to want to create more of those spaces in my normal life. Recently after returning from … More Creating a personal strategy to help you achieve your dream and goals.
Recently I was sitting in a group of maybe 200 people who were asked if they were artists, and only four people raised their hand. I was one of the four ‘artists’ who put their hand up. Can I paint or sculpt or dance? No, not at all. Yet I am an artist, because at … More We are all artists
My daughters as a part of their reading development are both learning to infer the meaning of what the writer is saying. I guess inferring means reading between the lines to gain a better understanding. Over the years I hope to teach them the importance of finding the implication of what the writer is saying. … More Learning to do
Our conversation was casual and jovial as we talked of my friend’s attempts to quit. Like all of us he had tried and failed on more than one occasion, except he was trying to give up smoking, an addiction I have never had to break. As we chatted through the failed attempts of the past … More 4 tips for losing weight, quitting smoking and changing habits.
I wonder what important parcels or documents are on board this DHL plane? I am sure that somewhere a person waits for the arrival of a parcel, that is possibly the most important thing in their life right now. At the conference, most of the speakers felt like they had something important to say. They … More What is important to me?
The Golden Rule states “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you.” It doesn’t say when its convenient or when it suits. It doesn’t say to some of our friends or people we get on well with. It says in everything. All things. All situations. All people. In everything… … More What is the Golden Rule and how to live by it.
We all have expectations of the people around us. We have an expectation that our spouse will do certain things. We have expectations on our kids, our bosses, our staff and even expectations on people we barely know. And when people don’t live up to our expectations we get annoyed, frustrated and even angry. This … More Unspoken Expectations