“Failure’s not fun. But failure is required. Failure in the service of learning, of experimenting, of making things – this is essential.
When you’re learning to walk, no one criticizes you when you fall down. Parents understand that you do it wrong and then you do it right.
But that’s about the last time you get that benefit. After that, we shame you when you fail.
We shame you as a way of gaining compliance and obedience. We shame you for your D-, we shame you for the missed shot on goal, we shame you for what you wore to the dance.
Is it any wonder we associate failure with shame?”
Finally finished Seth Godin’s book “What to do when its your turn” over the break. The above is a shameless excerpt from it.
How often do we not try, because if we fail, we will feel ashamed?
How often do we make people feel ashamed, for trying and failing?