As arrogant as it sounds, if you ask me for help, I’ll most likely say No. I often don’t even give a reason it’s just, No.
But it’s a great cause… No.
You’re the only one who can help… (the only one, really?) … No.
Last time you helped … I did. Sorry, No.
Over the years here is a question I constantly forget to ask, which is possibly the world’s most powerful personal, professional and strategic question.
If I say Yes to this, what am I saying no to?
From strategy and goals at one extreme, to temptation and love at the other, it’s a question that helps you pause and consider the consequence of a Yes or No.
No to this … so I can stay true to what’s important.
Yes to this … knowing full well I won’t have time for that other thing.
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I love action. I love being involved. I love personal growth. I love leading. I love the organisations we’re building. I love the people I work with. I love my family.
I need to say ‘Yes’ to these things, which means ‘No’ to a lot of cool and exciting things that stop me being the leader I’m created to be.
So my question for you is …
If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?
[Footnote] In case this post stops you asking me. I also say ‘Yes’ often.
This is an awesome post Andrew.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to pull back on things and you have very clearly articulated the effect of doing too much. Our passions can lead us down many paths but as you say, we need to ensure that we retain enough of ourselves for the things that are vital for us.
The dilemma I find is when it appears that if you don’t do it, it won’t be done. You know that often there will be someone else sooner or later who puts their hand up – but what if there isn’t?
Anyway – I love your question and I will be using it on myself in future. Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks for your encouraging comment. Often it’s not easy to say no, particularly to people we respect, but when we do, the weight that is lifted off our shoulders can be liberating. All the best.