Recently I was chatting to a stranger who had, in my opinion, a very dated and passionate view on military conscription. Now like you, I am very opinionated. This means we encounter people with very different views to us. And, if we aren’t careful this can lead us to bombard them with our opinion, to … More How to really win an argument
Life can never be lived perfectly. It won’t always go the way you planned. At times it can be frustrating, annoying, disappointing and painful all at the same time. And when our world is spinning out of control we can feel our choices are limited. But … we always get a choice … about how … More Choosing your response
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but we are already one month into 2019. So how are those goals, ambitions, dreams and resolutions going? If you are struggling, maybe it’s because you aren’t using hindsight well. Hindsight offers 20:20 vision It is fair to say that last year did not all go … More Hindsight gifts insights, that improves foresight.
I was attending a conference recently where the keynote speaker was talking about fixed and growth mindsets. He asked everyone who had a fixed mindset to raise their hand and naturally I did. I was the only one! Which is crazy because we all have a fixed mindset. In fact the majority of our beliefs … More You have a fixed mindset and here’s how to fix it.
“Cask wine still exists!” I was surprised to say the least. I had been eating lunch with friends and they politely informed me that cask wine was still a thing. Not convinced, because I’ve never seen it at the supermarket, I decided to check it out the next time I went shopping and I was … More Our attention defines our beliefs
You’ve heard the saying “Leaders are readers.” I no longer believe that is true! That’s because just reading for reading’s sake is not a healthy leadership trait. Great leaders are educators. Meaning, they are always learning. And always teaching. They do this by reading, for certain! They are also podcast listeners; video watchers; conference attenders … More Leaders are NOT readers
We no longer live in a world where everyone feels the need to always strive for perfection. As a leader and self-diagnosed perfectionist this poses some big challenges. There are no perfect decisions; more time, does not equal more right. In fact, the sooner you decide, the sooner you move forward and learn. There is … More Living with slightly embarrassing
“What did you do to get promoted?” she asked, hoping for a leadership gem. “I got lucky” I said, knowing it wasn’t the whole answer. I had just been sharing about the period of my life where I went from being a courier to a senior manager in New Zealand’s largest courier company over a … More How to get promoted!
My neighbour’s bach (holiday home) sits on the sand dunes a short distance from the beach. The walking track from the bach to the beach sort of dog-legs through the sand dunes. It doubles back, and makes the walk longer than it could be. But while the path is longer, it is considerably easier and … More How to rewire your brain
“I hate the word failure and wish it never existed,” I stated as strongly as I could as we reflected on some past experiences. I shared that the problem with failure is its opposite seems to be pass. The problem with pass is it has a strong mental connection to school or uni, where you … More Re-framing Failure
I’m not sure what caused the epiphany. Maybe it was the brief moment I had sitting in crisp fresh air marveling at the lake and mountains nestled in the Swiss Alps. Perhaps it was processing time from long hours of driving. Or something I was reading, I cannot recall. But on that day, I knew … More Every Single Day
I can’t imagine what it’s like to go to war. I can’t imagine having the courage to leave my family. To say goodbye to those I love. I can’t imagine being shipped off to some distant land to fight for people you don’t know. I can’t imagine long periods in trenches. In jungles. On battlefields. Bored. Exhausted. … More I can’t imagine war
When I was a kid, before you could ‘google maps’ the entire earth, I day dreamed of exploring the vast pacific ocean and discovering some distant new island. Nowadays, explorers are mostly people from ages past, that we watch in documentaries, or read about in children’s books. I don’t know of any parents who want … More Explorers
A few weeks ago three people, over the course of a week, reached out to ask why I wasn’t blogging? One example is from a young reader who private messaged me, “I was just wondering what happened with your blogs – I really enjoyed reading them” I looked back and saw I hadn’t blogged in … More Stopping unintentionally
Around our house we have duties that everyone has to do each week on rotation as a part of being in the family. Then there are the tasks like mowing the lawns which I can do for free, or the kids can do for money. Of course the first question is “how much do I … More How much do I get paid?