Around our house we have duties that everyone has to do each week on rotation as a part of being in the family. Then there are the tasks like mowing the lawns which I can do for free, or the kids can do for money. Of course the first question is “how much do I … More How much do I get paid?
And so it came to be that I was standing with my daughter on the walk bridge, in the now, watching as the sun slowly inched below the horizon. As twilight took hold a memory was locked away. A memory of being present, being here, being in the now. And I could have missed it. … More Why memories exist in the now.
Last week I was out running with Jay tagging along on his bike. As I ran, a seagull became increasingly disturbed with my presence and finally started dive bombing me. We sought shelter under some trees and, once the bird was over it, we carried on. It is fair to say Jay was freaked out … More Does fear steal freedom?
‘Kinstugi’ is the Japanese word that describes the art of repairing broken ceramics with gold. This art form is wonderful in the way it takes something that is broken, destined to be rubbish. And restores it. With gold ! Once repaired, it is considered more beautiful for having been broken. ∴ Often brokenness from our … More ‘Kinstugi’ the art of turning Brokenness into Beauty.
This is a picture of a floppy disk I own and have held onto since 1993. It’s a backup disk of the accounts from my one of my first businesses in 1990. I have no idea why I am holding onto it. Maybe it is part memento and part my own personal IT museum, as … More Do you have 406 things you could get rid of?
I don’t get time to … think I don’t get time to … exercise I don’t get time to … read I don’t get time to … do good I don’t get time to … play with the kids I don’t get time to … relax I don’t get time to … [fill in the blank] … More I don’t get time to …
It was a bleak, grey morning, and my 14-year-old daughter sat on the couch in her pyjamas, really struggling to get started on a massive homework project that she had. It was as though the burden of the project hung over her as dark as the clouds outside. The project seemed daunting and unachievable. After … More Stuck! – Do you really know the next step?
A friend of mine was sitting next to the Minister of Women’s Affairs on the plane recently and I asked him if he had asked her, if “women have many affairs?” Ok, that’s a poor shot at humour. The Hon. Jo Goodhew has an incredibly important role and I love that we are the first … More Why NZ needs a Ministry of Men’s Affairs
Often, as I’m walking or running along the streets, I will notice rental properties. Not because they have a sign on them saying they are rental, but because of the way that the lawns are kept and the gardens are over grown. The residents just seem to park their cars wherever they might like, be … More Why Accountability is more like Renting than Owning.
No-one can replace YOU in your life. No-one else can be their father or mother. No-one else can love your spouse or partner the way you can. No-one else has had the struggles and successes you’ve had. That makes you the perfect person to help. No-one else can come to the rescue quite like you. Your whole … More Hero’s wanted … YOU can apply here.
The enemy stood on the other side of the reception desk, or at least that’s is how the man next to us behaved as he ranted about some problem or another. We too had a problem, the room we had just checked into had not been cleaned properly. We could tell it hadn’t been cleaned … More Why choosing to be gracious is so important
Had the tree in our back yard pruned. Its been in that spot for 12 years (growing for 14) and best I can guess my kids started climbing it 7 years ago. It reminded me of the old Chinese proverb. “The best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago, the second best time … More The second best time is now.
Maybe it was the relentless dull drone of the engines, or the claustrophobic feel of the cabin. Maybe it was the absence of company or even just that my book was not riveting. Whatever it was my one hour flight to escape Palmerston North seemed to take forever. It was so painful. So boring. After … More Why choosing our state of mind is so important.
Imagine a 10-year-old student you have known. Now pause, and think about their schooling and what they have really learnt at the age of 10. Consider how little they really know in mathematics and english. Their drawing is good, but they are no designer. They have creativity but their cognitive skills are lacking. Now, imagine the 10-year-old … More One reason why education in New Zealand is fantastic!
One of the funny things about returning from annual leave is that I often have this utopic desire to live a more purposeful life. I guess the relaxation, uninterrupted time with family and the space to think, lead me to want to create more of those spaces in my normal life. Recently after returning from … More Creating a personal strategy to help you achieve your dream and goals.